My life isn't in shambles.. honestly, it could be bibliophile levels of worse. I own my own home, I have a fantastic job, I have access to my kids.. Despite the bullshit I've been through, I'm doing pretty well.
you know, people joke about polygamy.. but in Utah, the fringe FLDS groups still practice it, and if it can be proven, you can get charged with a 2nd degree felony for it (bigamy). How do I know that? Let's just say my ex didn't make sure her 2nd husband was divorced before they got hitched. (the guy is currently awaiting trial for bigamy)
My faith definitely helped me through this, for sure.
yep. 100%
The contents of the gameroom were literally the only things she left behind when she moved out. I was in a 3200 square foot house with nothing in it.
to this day, I've never gotten a straight answer from her. during the legal shit she said it was because she had gotten to the point where she would rather die than be with me. I personally don't think that's why. Toward the end of the marriage she was actively looking for things to yell at me over. there was one day that I had BlackIce come over to give him a console that I had RGB modded for him while my ex was out of the house and she SHAT BRICKS.
looking back on things, I realized that it was highly likely that she had slept with a friend of her brother's few years back and never told me. I think that, combined with a trip to her parents house for thanksgiving made her realize a few things and she was pretty much done living a lie she fabricated.
of course, this is all speculation. Since she left, she's proceeded to do and say things that are not only spiteful, but damaging to our kids. the best thing I can do is to be a good example of a well adjusted adult to them and hope that they'll turn out ok.
Thanks rot
This whole experience
has made me realize a few things:
*The legal system isn't about rehabilitation, it's about money (so far I'm about $15K deep in lawyer fees and fines)
*people will go to any length to leverage social movements and lie to make someone they really hate look bad despite the fact that they're the ones who have royally screwed their life up.
*No matter how bad things have gotten, they could always be much, MUCH worse.
bur seriously, the one big thing I've learned from this is:
*Despite all the crap that is happening, If you're truly a good man, you have nothing to prove to anyone. The way you live and act will be proof enough.
This is something that I don't think I would have learned without the last two years of bullshit. I hope I've come out of it a better version of who I once was.