Go ahead and use something like BidPay. I'm using it for when I send 17.50 to Hong Kong for a Snk vs. Capcom Kyo Kusanagi zippo. (screw you Dion! You could bid on every SNK item he had, but you weren't getting them all! Bitch.) They take the money out of your bank account or credit card and send the seller a money order. He gets an instantly cashable payment, and confirmation as soon as you pay, so he can send the goods right then! Or something like PayPAL. Even people outside of the US can use it. Point it out to him, and if he still wants cash, send it western union if you must, but please, NOT CASH!