Have you ever...

[genjuro1]

imagined that your significant other was someone else while having sex with them?

And do you think that that's cheating?

The topic of the night on my local hip-hop and R&B station (Power99 for all you Philly, South Jersey, Delaware heads) last night was the above mentioned. I called in to voice my opinion, because I was getting pissed!

Only females were calling in saying they imagined they were doing it with one of there exes for various reasons. One chic said, 'I think about my ex because my current bf climaxes to quick, and my ex was the only sexually partner I had, that made me climax.' Another chic said while she was on top of her bf having sex, she said her exes name, and her bf slapped her onto the floor and told her to get out!

I called in and said that I had done that one time with one of my exes 9 years ago. When earlier in the day I was watching Rap videos, and I seen a thorough video-chic. Later that night when having sex with my girl at time, I imagined it was that chic in the video. I mentioned I only did it that one time, and imo I think doing that is a form of cheating.

I also said if your in a relationship with someone that you care about, you should let the person know that improvements need to be made in the sex department, and yall should work together to improve it. Not have sex with somebody else, or imagine it's somebody else. The radio dj didn't think imagining somebody else while having sex with your significant other was cheating. She said 'We're human', if you see somebody while your on the street who you think looks good, imagining that you're having sex with that person while with your significant other isn't cheating, because you're not physically having sex with that person.

I disagreed respectfully.

I believe that IS cheating. If your imagining someone else while we're having sex, then you're not having sex with me: you're having sex with your ex-bf, or that guy you work with, or whoever. Just like when I did it, I wasn't smashing my girl, I was smashing that chic in the rap video.

I'd like to hear yall's opinion on this

 

[lithy]

It's not cheating if you put peanut butter on your testicles and let your dog lick it off.

BECAUSE IT'S YOUR DOG!

 

[OrochiEddie]

If you aren't thinking of the person you're with then you probably don't want to be with that person so it begs the question why you're with them.

I wouldn't say its cheating just kind of shitty

 

[payment_due]

It's not cheating if you put peanut butter on your testicles and let your dog lick it off.

BECAUSE IT'S YOUR DOG!

its not gay if your balls don't touch, right? RIGHT!?

 

[OrochiEddie]

its not gay if your balls don't touch, right? RIGHT!?

my cousin and I touched wieners.

 

[Mike Shagohod]

No That's Not Cheating.

It is if it becomes a regular problem where you can no longer look at the chick your pumping away and see her for her. But if some chick you saw at Best Buy or somewhere on the street happens to jump up into your mind while your doing the deed and you finish off. What's the harm? Now if it becomes a splinter in your mind and you then have to look the person up, get their digits, and more. Yeah, then your on your way to an extra marital affair.

My wife's complaint is that I don't "foreplay" enough, in the avenue of Backrubs and things like that. I'm no masseuse, I mean I can oblige for about 15 to 20 minutes but then my hands cramp up. Apparently one of her exs long before me could do the Spa Treatment thing for almost an hour before getting to the main event. Me, I'm a action packed ROUGH sex kind of guy. And honestly having to worry about whether or not I'm going to hard or whatever gets annoying, but if you love the person you gotta' hold back.

I've told her, hey. We're human. U wanna imagine some other guy from time to time, it makes me a nevermind. I might very well think of some BBW model or Belladonna if it strikes my fancy that isn't my wife and whatever. I'm not pinning constantly for them and I have my vows to keep (so far now problems, shit ain't easy all the time either). But the day ppl are guilty for what they think, well then might as well blow the planet up and call it a day. As a brooding person who lets the weight of the world fall on him often enough and having to take 4 prescription meds due to bad health from stress, I'm telling the original thread starter, YOU are worrying too much about this.

 

[alphagamer]

my cousin and I touched wieners.

in a totally manly way... right?

 

[Mike Shagohod]

in a totally manly way... right?

Maybe they got a double blow job or DPed a chick? That's just BROs OWNING THE HOS is all. Now if they stroked eachother or went down like a circus seal (Jay from Clerks here) style. Well, questions would have to be answered.

 

[Asmoday]

If you think its cheating to have a picture of someone else in mind during sex from time to time go get yourself into a long term relationship (no, not a year, not 3 years, not even 5, I am talking 10+) and we'll see if your stance changes. Physical attraction deminishes over time and anyone who says it doesn't is either in denail or just flat out lying. That doesn't mean you don't love the person you are with. In fact, you could very well have bonded with them mentally and emotionally better than you could with anyone else, but they just aren't as physically exciting as they were a decade+ ago. There is a reason a decent cross section of married couples utilize porn in the bedroom and its not because they enjoy the witty dialogue or are personally enriched by the story. This is from a male perspective. I can't speak for the ladies.

 

[OrochiEddie]

If you think its cheating to have a picture of someone else in mind during sex from time to time go get yourself into a long term relationship (no, not a year, not 3 years, not even 5, I am talking 10+) and we'll see if your stance changes. Physical attraction deminishes over time and anyone who says it doesn't is either in denail or just flat out lying. That doesn't mean you don't love the person you are with. In fact, you could very well have bonded with them mentally and emotionally better than you could with anyone else, but they just aren't as physically exciting as they were a decade+ ago. There is a reason a decent cross section of married couples utilize porn in the bedroom and its not because they enjoy the witty dialogue or are personally enriched by the story. This is from a male perspective. I can't speak for the ladies.

You are correct and from a social psychology stand point this has been proven as well.

 

[NeoSneth]

is it cheating when you masturbate?
no

so it taint cheatin IRL

 

[jro]

For the love of Christ, no. Ridiculous, really. That's fucking retarded.

 

[abasuto]

What about imaging your g/f with another girl ?

 

[WeinerDogSunglasses]

taint cheatin

 

[Castor Troy]

my cousin and I touched wieners.

Is it gay if two guys watch each other masturbate?

 

[Mike Shagohod]

Is it gay if two guys watch each other masturbate?

Seeing as how we've all seen Gang Bang and Double Team Porn at some point, you have to figure we're all guilty of seeing this, and if you're one of the said dudes involved in a Round Robin Bukkake fest for the chick, well... how would it be gay since it's like 12 or more ppl stroking their shit to keep hard until it's their turn to fuck her ass, pussy and mouth?

Like with anything else, everything is about scenario and Point of View. Basically the situation dictates the overall definition I'd say. Now if you're just watching some guy beat his tally wacker, then yeah. GH3Y!