Are any of you that are single/never been married, with no kids, constantly being hounded/pressured by your family and married with child(ren) friends to get married and have kids?
I turned 30 in March and for the past 5 years or so, my family and friends who are married with child(ren) have been gradually turning up the heat on me and my sister to get married and have kids. My sister (28) doesn't get it as bad as me because she's always had long-term boyfriends, but she also is not married, and has no kids.
I keep telling them that I just simply haven't been able to find a quality woman. I always get girls who are crazy, bitches, sluts, or a combination of the three. So my relationships only last a few weeks/months. I was engaged when I was 21, but my ex-fiance' wasn't ready, so she quit the relationship. (She tried to get back with me 3 years later, but I had matured, while she was still the same, so I deaded her attempt real quick).
Me and my buddies who are in the same predicament, talk about this often. They say they get the same thing from their families as well. I try to not flip out on my family because I love and respect them, but it's really starting to get on my nerves. It's not like I wanted to be single with no kids at 30. But I'm not gonna try to force it/rush it with someone who I know I'm gonna end up being divorced from. Then I'll be like a lot of dudes I know; divorced and broke, back living with mom, because child support is eatin up most of their paychecks, hating their ex-wife/child(s) mother. I live by myself in my own apartment (since the age of 21), with my own car. Most of the dudes I know who are divorced, or get child support taken out of their paycheck are living like I mentioned above. I'm not trying to have that. I like my independence. When I got sick and had to move back in with my mom for 19 months, I hated it. As soon as I got well enough to get my own apartment again I did.
I get mad at my family also, because most of them have kids, but have never been married, or have been married and divorced several times. My parents are divorced and are both on their third marriage. I was 12 when my parents were going through their divorce, 13 when it was finalised. That was an ugly situation, (as most divorces are) I'm not trying to have all that. I have to be sure I have a quality/strong woman, it's hard nowadays because like I said most of the chicks today are scandalous, crazy, bitches, and ho's. And at my age most of them got 2 & 3 kids with some knucklehead dude(s) (more drama that I'm not really interested in dealing with). Yet I'll keep searching...
I turned 30 in March and for the past 5 years or so, my family and friends who are married with child(ren) have been gradually turning up the heat on me and my sister to get married and have kids. My sister (28) doesn't get it as bad as me because she's always had long-term boyfriends, but she also is not married, and has no kids.
I keep telling them that I just simply haven't been able to find a quality woman. I always get girls who are crazy, bitches, sluts, or a combination of the three. So my relationships only last a few weeks/months. I was engaged when I was 21, but my ex-fiance' wasn't ready, so she quit the relationship. (She tried to get back with me 3 years later, but I had matured, while she was still the same, so I deaded her attempt real quick).
Me and my buddies who are in the same predicament, talk about this often. They say they get the same thing from their families as well. I try to not flip out on my family because I love and respect them, but it's really starting to get on my nerves. It's not like I wanted to be single with no kids at 30. But I'm not gonna try to force it/rush it with someone who I know I'm gonna end up being divorced from. Then I'll be like a lot of dudes I know; divorced and broke, back living with mom, because child support is eatin up most of their paychecks, hating their ex-wife/child(s) mother. I live by myself in my own apartment (since the age of 21), with my own car. Most of the dudes I know who are divorced, or get child support taken out of their paycheck are living like I mentioned above. I'm not trying to have that. I like my independence. When I got sick and had to move back in with my mom for 19 months, I hated it. As soon as I got well enough to get my own apartment again I did.
I get mad at my family also, because most of them have kids, but have never been married, or have been married and divorced several times. My parents are divorced and are both on their third marriage. I was 12 when my parents were going through their divorce, 13 when it was finalised. That was an ugly situation, (as most divorces are) I'm not trying to have all that. I have to be sure I have a quality/strong woman, it's hard nowadays because like I said most of the chicks today are scandalous, crazy, bitches, and ho's. And at my age most of them got 2 & 3 kids with some knucklehead dude(s) (more drama that I'm not really interested in dealing with). Yet I'll keep searching...