The Raimi Spider-Man films did not age well.
They have their moments. One of my favorite 'super hero' moments in any film ever was the scene where Spidey deals with the train situation in Spider-Man II. Specifically, putting himself at risk to save the train full of people.
I consume different types of pop culture to receive different kinds of enjoyment. When I watch a movie about people in silly costumes calling themselves super heroes, I want idealistic portrayals of super heroism. It's why Captain America still works for me as a concept all these years later, in a world with stories like Berserk, Game of Thrones and The Walking Dead.
However, perhaps dissonantly, even in those dark stories, it's always the characters who are the most optimistic and noble (Guts, Jon Snow, Rick Grimes) that resonate with me. Although it's naive, I like people that continue to hold on to hope. Characters that embrace moral relativism and immoral acts for the sake of pragmatism have given up on their human potential.